Candid Canda

This is a blog post that was stolen by my cyber stalker from Google.  She used my personal information to convince them that she was me .. To date, she still tells the world that she owns the blog and my writing.  This is what she does and her behavior.  It is okay; she simply cannot help herself.  She calls me "Hortence" in her writings in order to try and not violate an injunction against her.  Except From CandidCanda .. Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behavior does .. Just because a belief is a belief that is sufficient enough for you to feel strong about, it does not mean that everyone around you will receive it. Think about all of the times that you have experienced in your life in which some people just refused to hear or try to understand what a person was saying that made absolute logical sense because they were more than likely thinking irrationally.  Thank you, dear stalker and bully, I am grateful that you will l...

I am a survivor. I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways. I will inhale confidence and exhale doubt. I may be one in 7 billion but I am also one in 7 billion! I am smart. I believe I can change the world (or at least my corner of it). I am important. This morning as exceptional.  I was up before the sun caring for animals and making breakfast.  There was a chill in the air and I could see my breathe.  My little border collie puppy that has a deformed leg was the happiest to see me as always.  She will always have a place in our hearts because she is special in spirit, life, and enthusiasm despite her disability.  My sweet husband takes her everywhere with him and she loves his attention.  This is so true about me.  I am a survivor; I have survived the worst of the worst that a person can dish out to another person.  This morning I found her dirty work once again.  She has my social security n...

I love ME. The world has a need for me. I am unique. I can and I will do things to promote healing in my life. I can handle this one step at a time. The sun is shining; I am ready to take on another day. This morning, we received a strange email from a person that is obviously quite hurt by the actions of another.  It is not an unusual story and we have been receiving such emails and telephone calls for the past year.  We do have one person in common; our adult woman cyber bully. We were sad to listen to this man's story.  We offered empathy because we understand the same.  How does one get past the betrayal and pain?  I believe that we do not; we endure and find a way to turn a negative experience into positive that will assist others in this same kind of journey.   We can forgive but we do not forget how this person has made us feel and the damage she has done.  It is okay now.  We understand that she cannot help hers...

My Affirmations I love ME. The world has a need for me. I am unique. I can and I will do things to promote healing in my life. I can handle this one step at a time. The sun is shining; I am ready to take on another day. My problem has a solution; I will work on a plan. I am a survivor. I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways. I will inhale confidence and exhale doubt. I may be one in 7 billion but I am also one in 7 billion! I am smart. I believe I can change the world (or at least my corner of it). I am important. Today, I will celebrate me. I matter. I can find peace through prayer and meditation. I am strong. My confidence is beautiful. I am imperfect but I’m perfectly me. My smile can make someone feel better. I choose to focus on what I can control. Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end. I am happy with who I am. Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better. I am a good per...

I was reading an interesting article about female children who turned into adult women and continued to bully.  What happens as female bullies get older is that they become more sophisticated and they begin terrorizing one or others.  We found this to be particularly true as we found out the childhood horror stories of our adult woman bully.   If not in control of a situation, they can become outraged and violent.  We have experienced such rants and I am sure we will continue to do so.  As adults, we have full control over how we live our lives and the people we allow in our lives.  I have discovered that our woman bully is projecting her own insecurities on me.  For example, she told the public that she owns 8 homes in three states.  Yet, she cried to our attorney that she owns nothing.  In her divorce, she signed over an old mobile home attached to her former husband's home.  She claims to be self-employed and yet is to hol...

 It can be difficult to get past your adult bully.  Continual reminders can be everywhere along with the bully who continues in the battle.  This week we looked through pages of final draft as we move forward in the legal process once again.  Passive-aggressive behavior can manifest itself everywhere in online social media, texting video, email, and on-line discussions.  Identity theft is prevalent in our case and will be easy to showcase in court.  Anna Maria Chavez wrote, "Cyber bullies do not need physical access to their victims to do unimaginable harm". Bullies are common in their physical, mental, and/or emotional abuse.  Unless we set strong and effective boundaries, the bully will continue and intensify the abuse.  Getting past the adult bully can take time and great effort. Someone who hates you normally hates your for one of three reasons; they see you as a threat (she wanted a man that, at the time, she could not have a...

The story of what has happened in my past does not change.  But the power I give to it has changed.   I have stopped justifying the anger because life is much happier with resentment and the time spent in trying to remember the details.  Unfortunately, sometimes events from the past have a mind of their own.  Maybe there are people who make it difficult for your to forget your past and move on.  Memories keep recirculating when all you want is for them to disappear!  It is not easy to take responsibility for your own happiness but when you do, what is revealed is happiness and peace. When you think about it, the past isn't really about the past.  Memories of events are thoughts that are occurring in the now, the present.  Anger or hurt about the past happens now.  It is how you present the moment experience that keeps the past alive. What is amazing about this understanding is that the way out of suffering is your attitude about ...