Candid Canda

  We had an interesting class last night.  We are speaking about mental disorders that can alter the journey of one's path.  Are they really mental illness or the attempt at being a coward? I have always wondered about the mind of the coward, though. Here are some of my thoughts: Cowards are pretty consistent in their cowardice. I’ve never seen a coward doing something brave. If you put a courageous person next to a coward, the coward will become less scared; or more brutal! However, it is possible that she (the coward) is just acting brave because she is afraid of the consequences of having a braver person witnessing her cowardice. Short: the coward becomes braver because she’s afraid of being called out. Never blame a coward! It’s not her fault; or is it?! Never trust a coward! Bravery is the most inconsistent virtue of all. Alcohol makes people brave while a hangover can turn you into a coward. Once a person has committed an act of cowardice, it’s very difficult for th...

  There has never been more of a beautiful day than today! Do you have those kinds of days where everything falls into place? The weather is perfect, people are perfect, employment is perfect, and home is perfect. I have never been more grateful for my blessings than I am at this moment. I had an amazing class last night. It is all about understanding our own levels of emotional immaturity. People who are emotionally immature don’t meet society's expectations for social behavior within their age range. It’s safe to assume that a grown-up will be able to consider their impact on others and pay attention to their feelings. Emotionally mature people can accept criticism and learn from it. Adults with emotional maturity can think about and plan for the future as well. People with emotional immaturity, however, struggle with these things. Emotionally immature people lack certain emotional and social skills and have trouble relating with other adults. Some behaviors can be ...

  ave you ever met someone who seems to act like the whole world owes them? Someone who is not satisfied unless their own needs are being met. Trying to deal with someone who has acted this way can feel frustrating. In fact, in society, this type of behavior typically attracts strong criticism and condemnation. If this sounds like someone you know, you may be dealing with someone who has a sense of entitlement, defined as " an unrealistic, unmerited, or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others. " I was the recipient of a strange telephone call from the area where my stalker resides. It seems she is busy and literally suing the town she lives in. She has declared everything she owns under the guise of a business and yet doesn't want to pay the business fees. She lives within the walls of the business and feels that she should be billed personal fees. Yet, she has declared herself under the business in order...

  Have you ever met someone who seems to act like the whole world owes them?  Someone who is not satisfied unless their own needs are being met?  Trying to deal with someone who has acted this way can feel frustrating.  In fact, in society, this type of behavior typically attracts strong criticism and condemnation. If this sounds like someone you know, you may be dealing with someone who has a sense of entitlement, defined as " an unrealistic, unmerited, or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others. "  I was the recipient of a strange telephone call from the area where my stalker resides. It seems she is busy and literally sueing the town she lives in. She has declared everything she owns under the guise of a business and yet doesn't want to pay the business fees. She lives within the walls of the business and feels that she should be billed personal fees. Yet, she has declared herself...

  I was gazing out the window of my office and watching the fluffy white thunderheads roll by. I am fascinated by their sizes, sizes, and dimensions. I read the email this morning that noted good news; another dream is coming into being. One that will take care of my husband and I for the years to come. I am grateful for the person that inspired this wonderful event. A dream is described “an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.” Five common reasons people have trouble identifying their dreams include: (1) Some people have been discouraged from dreaming by others, (2) Some people are hindered by past disappointments and hurts, (3) Some people get in the habit of settling for average, (4) Some people lack the confidence needed to pursue their dreams, and (5) Some people lack the imagination to dream. I love passion and passion is the starting point for achieving my dreams. It includ...

  Have you ever been around someone who "skirts around the truth"? They don't have the courage to speak or write the truth so they "skirt around the truth" and blame it on someone else. It is the person who plays the victim with the angry outburts and suffers from depression, even admits to it. Every bad thing in the world has happened to them. They are self-absorbed in a strange, negative way. Nothing is really their fault. In one of my classes, we have been a personality construct that is termed as "Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood" or TIV. TIV is defined as an "enduring feeling that the self is a victim across different kinds of interpersonal relationships" of which there are several core components, including: Need for Recognition: I have an experience where a woman I know of has a high level of need for her victimization to be seen and recognized by others; social media, letters, telephone, emails, etc. Moral Elitism: Seei...

  I had a relative of my stalker who sent me a public post written by her. I know she is referring to me and I am not embarassed in the slightest. I have developed great courage, perseverence, and faith in her actions and how I do not want to be. I am taking care of a disabled husband and work hard to care for him and our properties. I love that she inspires me to be a better person today than yesterday. Her hatefulness, her mental illness (proclaimed by her), and her fake persona is easily seen through and through. "If you run up a bill with an attorney, and then file bankruptcy against the attorney!!!! So you don’t have to pay him/her!!!! Is he/she still your attorney? Asking for a “sister in Christ”. Let's set the story straight; how I pay my bills is my business. She has no idea what happened to us during the time my husband was in hospice because she did not make an attempt to care for her dying husband. She did not work two and three jobs to care for him because she was ...