The Blessing of Self Worth

Today I awoke to two emails describing a person that wishes to crush my self-worth by dwelling on past mistakes and misconceptions unique to her own mind and sickness.  I laughed as I responded, "so what .. "  She has nothing but her past anger, despair, and unhappiness of dwelling in the past and pining over a man she will never have marry her.   Truth has been revealed and it will continue to do so as the emails ping my computer and the telephone calls keep coming in.

I have learned so much over the past years and I have her to thank for this. Yes, I thank her!  I thank her for not making a mistake with a so-called man who cannot tell the truth, I thank you for completing and continuing on with my college education (she said that I never could), and I thank her for a new, and healthy me (she made fun of me publicly for being overweight)!  My value did not decrease because she refused to see me as person, it did not decrease because she could not win her battles against me, and it did not decrease me because of her negative internet presence about me.  As I have stood my ground, my value has increased.  It has increased for me, my husband, and for my family members.  I have set boundaries, set higher standards, and working on resolving the sins of my past.  Besides I have learned that judgment of me does not assist her in her smugness and battle, it disengages and destroys her self worth.  

Internet posts can be reported and filed for further court actions, words become the words of the past, and only she can control the illnesses that affect her brain and body.  My road shows movement forward and away from her.  I love how her paranoia thinks that I am still stalking, harassing, and her cries of victim still penetrate the internet even today.  Who cares?!  I have learned that the important people are aware of her typical psychology and even more important understand her plight.  

Know your self worth and if you do not, start taking the steps to find out how worth you are.  It is not an easy world today so every effort needs to be made in developing our own characteristics and talents to promote self worth and self care.  Draw in if you are giving too much of yourself.  Concentrate on yourself first.  Take classes, read good books, exercise, and mold yourself into the person that you wish to be and admire.  It starts with a baby step .. Increase the ability to see your own self worth!


This is my official sight. My other site by this same name was pirated by another person using false information. 
Her Name is #AnnetteKaye Bedwell and I would love
to have my site returned to me.
Please encourage her to do so .. 

Copyright © 2019 by www.CandidCandaSpeaksOut.com 

All rights reserved. This blog or any portion thereof may not be printed, copied, reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or similar cited with author's name and copyright.



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

What Your Bully Doesn't Want You To Know About YOU ..

Image
You may not have heard alot about Adult Bullying , but it is becoming a serious problem.  If you have kept up with my blogs, you have read some of my experiences with my woman adult bully.  Yes, an adult, and should know better.  One thing to remember is that as people mature and progress through life, they learn to stop such behaviors in their youth.  Sadly, some adult bullies are just children bullies who have grown up.  While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, it is still adult bullying just the same! Our Adult Bully has been a blessing to us!  It is surprising what makes her "tick".  And I have learned a few secrets about her that have helped us understand her sadness and loneliness.  Other emotional issues are involved but it should never be an absolute excuse for cruelty and bad behavior towards others.  It is like keeping your dog on a chain and enticing it to freedom! Remember, it is not easy being a bully !  Th
Read more

Defining Love ..

Image
The past few days have been crazy days.  My poor husband has been up and down and down again in his health.  Between an ER and doctor visit, it has been busy.  These are the type of days that can be discouraging.  Whether it is a negative coworker, an exhausting friendship, or a challenging family member, there are times when we just want to give up on people and feel as though all of our love and patience has run out.  My husband did not fall into this category of discouragement and despair, but there were a few others that did.  There is that obstacle of loving people who are hard to love.  I believe in these circumstances we need to be reminded of the truth, of the reality that we have access to a love that is always giving, selfless, real, and true. Our ability to love is a heart issue.  We have to realize that there are times that we may have the completely wrong definition of love.  To have true love is action, it takes courage and vulnerability.  It is a giving
Read more

Spiritual Manipulation

Image
What is spiritual manipulation?  Spiritual manipulation is a technique used by abusive individuals to control others and acquire gain, all the while giving the impression that their teachings are based on the Bible.  Some persons, like our cyber bully, take scriptures out of context to persuade the uninformed that their interpretation is right, even to the extent that they alone have "the truth" and everyone else is wrong.   Some individuals manipulate scripture for their own personal benefit, to make themselves seem more than they are and they are righteous and approving.  I guess, obtaining a minister's license on the internet makes one a bible scholar! Bullies who use spiritual manipulation have always been around!  They are NOT HAPPY within their own lives unless they are fighting a battle.  They tend to maneuver to get preferred placement among their peers. Our cyber bully does not recognize herself as a bully.  Yet four banker boxes and large
Read more