Candid Canda

No one owns me!  Those who try to control other people are neither nice or respectful.  Controlling people are self-centered and immature.  They want to hinder you leading a fulfilling, independent life.  With the easiness of hiding behind a computer screen, they want to demean and control how persons feel about you. Our stalker/cyber bully writes in her recent post that " I OWN YOU! I have the control. I OWN YOU... I'll always be better than you."   Of course, she is referring to me.  Of course, she is unraveling in her words.  Better than me?  This is not a competition; we have two separate lives and we have different value systems.  At least, I have admitted my shortcomings and making great strides to better myself; academically, professionally, and personally. One has to examine a stalker's behavior.  Her internet posts are public.  There is no expectation of privacy.  Believe me, no one goes out of their way to stalk her.  There is nothing to

An arrow flings and grazes one of your hidden, vulnerable spots. The rawness of the impact brings a long dormant facet of yourself to light. A gush of new insights rushes out. You could see how some of your dearest values grate against your ideals. For now, simply acknowledge the incompatibility instead of resolving it. Quick solutions, while attractive, may obfuscate more than they heal. Be gracious with yourself and your heart. One of the most important moments in life is the moment you finally find the courage and determination to let go of what can't be changed. Because, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself ... to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.  I have been experiencing blessings beyond belief.  We experienced a speed bump from our bully/stalker but I understand her hatred, her revenge, her unhappiness, and her unwillingness to take charge of her own life and pursue better.  I u

I love making recipes from scratch .. Isn't this the way that we start a new day?  From scratch; from the very beginning, a new chapter, a new story, the movement forward a clear path.  What happens when other persons do not allow for a new day, a new way, second chances? Adult bullies love to reveal the shortcomings and mistakes of others.  It seems to make them feel superior.  It can make one uncomfortable if they let it.   Remember, being bullied by an adult is not like a bully in middle school slapping the books out of your hand or tripping you in the hallway.  An adult bully is calculating and cruel.  Our adult bully has been on her life-long journey to humiliate, embarrass, harass, victimize, and the list of words can go on.  She <giggles> at the misfortune of others; not just me but those she thinks breaks the law.  Little known is her struggles with law enforcement and the justice system.  Karma has a way of working itself to the forefront of any