The Arrow






An arrow flings and grazes one of your hidden, vulnerable spots. The rawness of the impact brings a long dormant facet of yourself to light. A gush of new insights rushes out. You could see how some of your dearest values grate against your ideals. For now, simply acknowledge the incompatibility instead of resolving it. Quick solutions, while attractive, may obfuscate more than they heal. Be gracious with yourself and your heart.

One of the most important moments in life is the moment you finally find the courage and determination to let go of what can't be changed. Because, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself ... to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.  I have been experiencing blessings beyond belief.  We experienced a speed bump from our bully/stalker but I understand her hatred, her revenge, her unhappiness, and her unwillingness to take charge of her own life and pursue better.  I understand how degrading it must feel to have such ugliness of heart that it cannot be moved out of the past and into opportunity and self-reward.  Her ugliness encourages me to pursue higher, happier expectations of myself and it is working.  Her bickering that I am harassing her children, her admittance to scamming our cell phones and work phones, and her bragging of an "army" that supports her illegal activities are comical.  It just proves further that her calculating nature is nothing more than cowardly and mental. 

The last weeks have brought blessings.  Letters of recommendation for a new adventure, vacations, a new employment position, the satisfaction of receiving certifications, a hot tub to rest weary bones, the coming of Spring, new babies, fields and gardens to plant, a grand-daughter's wedding, children reunions, a new bow, and I am anxious for the BBQs and backyard parties with friends and clubs. These are the moments that fill the days and the memories.


This is my official sight. My other site by this same name was pirated by another person using false information. 

Her Name is #AnnetteKaye Bedwell and I would love
to have my site returned to me.


Please encourage her to do so ..  
@2019 wwwCandidCandaSpeaksOut.com
Copyright © 2019 by www.CandidCandaSpeaksOut.com 
All rights reserved. This blog or any portion thereof may not be printed, copied, reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or similar cited with author's name and copyright.








 

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

What Your Bully Doesn't Want You To Know About YOU ..

Image
You may not have heard alot about Adult Bullying , but it is becoming a serious problem.  If you have kept up with my blogs, you have read some of my experiences with my woman adult bully.  Yes, an adult, and should know better.  One thing to remember is that as people mature and progress through life, they learn to stop such behaviors in their youth.  Sadly, some adult bullies are just children bullies who have grown up.  While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, it is still adult bullying just the same! Our Adult Bully has been a blessing to us!  It is surprising what makes her "tick".  And I have learned a few secrets about her that have helped us understand her sadness and loneliness.  Other emotional issues are involved but it should never be an absolute excuse for cruelty and bad behavior towards others.  It is like keeping your dog on a chain and enticing it to freedom! Remember, it is not easy being a bully !  Th
Read more

Defining Love ..

Image
The past few days have been crazy days.  My poor husband has been up and down and down again in his health.  Between an ER and doctor visit, it has been busy.  These are the type of days that can be discouraging.  Whether it is a negative coworker, an exhausting friendship, or a challenging family member, there are times when we just want to give up on people and feel as though all of our love and patience has run out.  My husband did not fall into this category of discouragement and despair, but there were a few others that did.  There is that obstacle of loving people who are hard to love.  I believe in these circumstances we need to be reminded of the truth, of the reality that we have access to a love that is always giving, selfless, real, and true. Our ability to love is a heart issue.  We have to realize that there are times that we may have the completely wrong definition of love.  To have true love is action, it takes courage and vulnerability.  It is a giving
Read more

Spiritual Manipulation

Image
What is spiritual manipulation?  Spiritual manipulation is a technique used by abusive individuals to control others and acquire gain, all the while giving the impression that their teachings are based on the Bible.  Some persons, like our cyber bully, take scriptures out of context to persuade the uninformed that their interpretation is right, even to the extent that they alone have "the truth" and everyone else is wrong.   Some individuals manipulate scripture for their own personal benefit, to make themselves seem more than they are and they are righteous and approving.  I guess, obtaining a minister's license on the internet makes one a bible scholar! Bullies who use spiritual manipulation have always been around!  They are NOT HAPPY within their own lives unless they are fighting a battle.  They tend to maneuver to get preferred placement among their peers. Our cyber bully does not recognize herself as a bully.  Yet four banker boxes and large
Read more