Candid Canda

With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. ~ Zig Ziglar What a beautiful morning!!  The sun is shining with a few gray clouds and the air is cool and crisp.  My husband and I fed the animals and I was off to get ready for work.  Today, I celebrate the birthday of my son who passed away in 2010.  This is a bittersweet day as emotions rock from happy to sad and back to happy again.  This is also an amazing day because a sweet foal was born just after midnight; a little painted boy.  I will name him after Derek in some way.  Blessings among the pain.  This is the way life is. Today, I am closing another chapter.  You see, I have been stalked, teased, and taunted for years.  This woman is suffering from delusions and pain.  I prayed for her this morning as I always do because her heart is hard and revenge ...

After her posts of today, I realize that she is nothing more than hot air, the attention-seeker, because s he can no longer do the damage or emotional pain that she once did.  There are a few characteristics that I have noticed in her posts; her claims of victimology, her unravelings, her mental attempt to validate bad behavior.  It has been become comical in nature; her "ownership" of me. Our adult bully's motivation is to be the center of attention.  She claims that her blog hosts 450,000 followers.  Exaggeration but her mindet is to be a control freak, to manipulate, a form of narcissism.  Her malice level when held accountable is very high and she even attempts at feeble death threats. We have found her to be the following: Emotionally immature. Selectively friendly; is sickly sweet to some people, rude and offhand to others, and ignores the rest. She is cold and agressive towards anyone who sees them for what they areally are or e...

No one owns me!  Those who try to control other people are neither nice or respectful.  Controlling people are self-centered and immature.  They want to hinder you leading a fulfilling, independent life.  With the easiness of hiding behind a computer screen, they want to demean and control how persons feel about you. Our stalker/cyber bully writes in her recent post that " I OWN YOU! I have the control. I OWN YOU... I'll always be better than you."   Of course, she is referring to me.  Of course, she is unraveling in her words.  Better than me?  This is not a competition; we have two separate lives and we have different value systems.  At least, I have admitted my shortcomings and making great strides to better myself; academically, professionally, and personally. One has to examine a stalker's behavior.  Her internet posts are public.  There is no expectation of privacy.  Believe me, no one goes out of thei...

An arrow flings and grazes one of your hidden, vulnerable spots. The rawness of the impact brings a long dormant facet of yourself to light. A gush of new insights rushes out. You could see how some of your dearest values grate against your ideals. For now, simply acknowledge the incompatibility instead of resolving it. Quick solutions, while attractive, may obfuscate more than they heal. Be gracious with yourself and your heart. One of the most important moments in life is the moment you finally find the courage and determination to let go of what can't be changed. Because, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself ... to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.  I have been experiencing blessings beyond belief.  We experienced a speed bump from our bully/stalker but I understand her hatred, her revenge, her unhappiness, and her unwillingness to take charge of her own life and pursue better....

I love making recipes from scratch .. Isn't this the way that we start a new day?  From scratch; from the very beginning, a new chapter, a new story, the movement forward a clear path.  What happens when other persons do not allow for a new day, a new way, second chances? Adult bullies love to reveal the shortcomings and mistakes of others.  It seems to make them feel superior.  It can make one uncomfortable if they let it.   Remember, being bullied by an adult is not like a bully in middle school slapping the books out of your hand or tripping you in the hallway.  An adult bully is calculating and cruel.  Our adult bully has been on her life-long journey to humiliate, embarrass, harass, victimize, and the list of words can go on.  She <giggles> at the misfortune of others; not just me but those she thinks breaks the law.  Little known is her struggles with law enforcement and the justice system.  Ka...

Today I awoke to two emails describing a person that wishes to crush my self-worth by dwelling on past mistakes and misconceptions unique to her own mind and sickness.  I laughed as I responded, "so what .. "  She has nothing but her past anger, despair, and unhappiness of dwelling in the past and pining over a man she will never have marry her.   Truth has been revealed and it will continue to do so as the emails ping my computer and the telephone calls keep coming in. I have learned so much over the past years and I have her to thank for this. Yes, I thank her!  I thank her for not making a mistake with a so-called man who cannot tell the truth, I thank you for completing and continuing on with my college education (she said that I never could), and I thank her for a new, and healthy me (she made fun of me publicly for being overweight)!  My value did not decrease because she refused to see me as person, it did not decrease because she could n...

This is a blog post that was stolen by my cyber stalker from Google.  She used my personal information to convince them that she was me .. To date, she still tells the world that she owns the blog and my writing.  This is what she does and her behavior.  It is okay; she simply cannot help herself.  She calls me "Hortence" in her writings in order to try and not violate an injunction against her.  Except From CandidCanda .. Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behavior does .. Just because a belief is a belief that is sufficient enough for you to feel strong about, it does not mean that everyone around you will receive it. Think about all of the times that you have experienced in your life in which some people just refused to hear or try to understand what a person was saying that made absolute logical sense because they were more than likely thinking irrationally.  Thank you, dear stalker and bully, I am grateful that you will l...